I don't know how you guys destroy the shirts like that, just respect the indications use: cold water, delicate cycle and never use a dryer and abs never use fabric softeners. Totally not worth paying 100€ to get a shirt fucked up after a handful of cycles. Also, immediately take them out of the machine as soon as it has finished it's job or else they will be destroyed. Never wash them with anything else than the same material ( the softer one will suffer ), even if they're post poly and both Dri Fit or ClimaCool or whatever ( they differ ), if they're with lettering, think of washing them alone. As for inside out, I wouldn't say it's a must
This is how I wash them and never feel like making an exception.
But because once I left them in the bathroom, my mom washed my 2 Barcelona 2006-07 away shirts with hot water and even forgot them in the machine, I didn't realize because I just left them to wash them the next day myself, but she took them and fell asleep, the result is that one of them, with Ronnie 10 printing and the other vanilla got unfixable wrinkles everywhere, the hot water clearly fucked them up and leaving them overnight made it even worse, thinking the shirts are pretty thin ( the home for example are more thicker ), they look like they've been digested by an elephant, the numbers are hardly affected unless you look closely on the margins but this is totally annoying, thinking I bought one of them at the Camp Nou visit back then and they both cost some money, while taking good care of them, they can last for centuries, compared to cotton shirts which never live forever. The same week she also destroyed my 2007-08 Arsenal Home ( some wrinkles + affected letters of the sponsor ) and my US 2006 WC Home, got really really mad and I still am! I haven't found a fix, to make them look like before, it's just impossible. Very affected are the letters on the back of the neck with the size, production and other info, which is buggy.
If you can't get that right, just hand wash them, the effort is above the cost of a shirt.
The thing is that I have shorts from 2006 that I have worn all the time, including all day in the house or even while playing something, should've been worn like 1000 days at least and they look like new, from plastic tags to the lettering indicating the size and where they're made on the back of the butt, but for example, a friend has the same model, from 2006, and they already looked like used for 100 years in comparison because his mom washed them as cotton shirts.
To add, my finest shirts ( as material ) should be the Nike Tennis shirts, just got a French Open Nike shirt from 2014 last week and it feels like, hell, sometimes I forget I have it on me, I should be really careful
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