It does show his good side. Whether it's shadowed upon by the aggressiveness his teams play with has nothing to do with his image outside football world.
Yeah it shows that he can have a good side too. but he chooses to nullify it most of the time.His team's actions are not so separated from his. his players play unjustly because he tell them to.
Also "And let's face it like it is, you simply can not be a normal truly nice guy and look like a total bag of pregnancy control tools while doing your job. " - huh? Any basis to this? Because in this form this statement makes no sense. World is filled with two-faced people whose images differ completely with different people. A boss may seem to be a complete arse when at work, but could be a family man and a cool guy outside working environment. It's like you're choosing to believe that people are always what they look like they are. Mourinho by no means has to be a self-centred ass outside football world just because he has a public opinion of a radical coach who always tries to win no matter the cost. The mask he puts on to do his job is legit. It's stupid to say it's not like some people already have.
I put emphasis in "truly", mate. I see what you see here and probably I should have been more clear in my last comment. I never think that people are always what they look like they are, that's childish and stupid. however the choices people make is an important factor for me to shape an opinion about them. Mou can be a super nice guy in his personal life, but when he chooses to throw all kinds of manners away to do his job, it means he does not believe in them, or he does not know how to get a job done while not letting yourself drop low, or he chooses not to believe them. getting a job done is one thing. how to get the job done is another. And you choose how to get the job done. In the same way that you choose your beliefs, you base your choices on your beliefs as well. Your choices come from your beliefs and your beliefs shape your true character.
It is this choice (letting even the most basic forms of manners to slip by this easily) and subsequently this side of his character that makes
me, not trust or respect him. I put emphasis on "me" because it is a personal point of view.
He lives in a society that is much more influenced from his public behavior than his personal actions. when he gets a referee a death threat, when he puts them under all kinds of pressure to do their jobs unjustly, he makes their lives harder,makes them lose their jobs and can even, as pep once implied make people lose their lives.when you have influence on the people around you to this scale, your choices become much more important than a normal family man. you actions that stem from your choices become more than a mask. in this condition, if the image is wrong , it will not be legit any more.
As for Abidal situation, Mou did what was right to do. I doubt he himself or anyone else in Madrid gives a fuck whether it will win any points within Cule community (which it won't) and frankly it doesn't matter because the only messages he sent are that he does wish a player well in a life threatening situation and that he does in fact have a good side to his character. Whether you deny it or whether you won't is your choice. It's closer to the truth to say that what he said was real and not some usual mind game of his.
yeah he absolutely the right thing that any normal guy would do. However his nice doings are so hidden under his other actions' shadow that they will easily lose color. other people's appreciation of his condolences tells more of people's understanding and manners than the value of his action.
