I guess it was my own fault for reading the comments in this thread.
As a man who grow up in a household where my mother was beaten and sometimes r**ed, I know a lot about this stuff.
Some of the comments here a vile, ignorant and disgusting- especially 1 or 2 posters in particular posting about "if you don't leave I've no sympathy". You do not get it. As a whole, its interesting seeing how men talk about this completely differently than women do, for obvious reasons (those being that we have very different live experiences).
I was jumping between anger, sadness and frustration reading the last few pages. I sincerely hope the women in your lives who've been assaulted (because, believe me,you know women who've been assaulted), have never heard you talk about these issues in person.